As parents, we think the world of our kids.
So, when they possess a particular talent, “naturally” we think they’re ready for the Olympics, a run on Broadway, or a college scholarship — My kid the superstar.
At games, you’ll find some proud parents cheering their children for giving it their best shot, while others “browbeat” their kids — sometimes pushing them to their physical and emotional limits — and frequently, just harassing or embarrassing them in front of their friends.
It’s no wonder that many kids lose interest in an activity because it’s no longer rewarding and fun.
It makes you wonder whether winning means more to the parents or to their children?
Sure … some kids will translate their talent into stardom and a professional career.
As for the others … these activities can provide a wonderful learning experience about life — if we would just treat them that way — while “letting our kids be kids.”
Preparing Kids for the Game of Life
Teach your child that success doesn’t come easily. Life is a continuing competition in which excellence wins. Therefore, it’s better to learn how to compete when the consequences are small. So if you aren’t using every opportunity to prepare your child for the game of life, your son or daughter is being cheated out of something very special.
Take your cue from the great coaches in all sports and at all levels — great coaches build trust, instill discipline, and foster teamwork. They showcase the child who displays a can-do attitude, shows improvement, or demonstrates leadership on and off the field. Great coaches inspire confidencebyapplauding the team because they did their best — even if they lost the game.
The bottom line is that kids aren’t born with self-confidence or a positive attitude; kids don’t automatically know how to conquer fear, accept feedback, overcome obstacles, or snatch victory from the jaws of defeat; kids don’t always know what it’s like to come back after failure, be a humble winner, or show grace after a terrible loss.
These skills are learned.
So do your child a favor and teach him or her the winning philosophy of great coaches — because even though it’s great to win the game, it’s even better to be a superstar in life.